Gack: “I’m wearing you”

By Amanda Marcotte
Monday, December 27, 2010 16:38 EDT
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I’m still in travel mode for at least today and tomorrow—hopefully, the blizzard will let us get home on time. I may be lucky enough to post more later today, but right now, I have no time. But I did work all the way until early evening on Christmas Eve! I taped this Bloggingheads with Moe Tkacik about rape and Wikileaks, as a response to her post here.

I was ready for a fight, but Moe’s stance on both Wikileaks and the rape case changed considerably after that post, which also strangely includes ruminations on “The Girl With The Dragon Tattoo”, as if you can really extrapolate much about Swedish culture from a single exploitation series that has a sort of feminist message buried in a bunch of unsettling rape imagery. But the chat was amicable, and we agreed on most things, and I think it was really interesting. If you go to the link, you’ll get it broken into smaller chunks if you just want samples.

Moe’s not talking about how Sweden is hysterical because they believe that you should have consent before you fuck someone, but guess who is! That’s right, Julian Assange, who is fully committed to the “bitches are crazy” defense, which doesn’t surprise me, as that’s the defense in 99% of rape cases where the defendant was actually dating the accuser.

“Sweden is the Saudi Arabia of feminism,” Julian Assange has said in a recent interview. “I fell into a hornets’ nest of revolutionary feminism.” And there’s something the Guardian left out of its report on the accusations against him.

The notion that full consent should be required for sex to happen is hardly my idea of “revolutionary feminism”, or a “hornet’s nest”. Indeed, what I call the concept is “how people with empathy and a spirit of camaraderie about sex conduct themselves.” Indeed, I was reading old Savage Love columns (no link, sorry—maybe I can find it later—but it was not through the internet) while waiting to get on the plane on Christmas, and Dan Savage, hardly a “revolutionary feminist”, suggested that slipping the condom off during sex without a woman’s consent is rape.

Also reported at the Jezebel link:

According to the paper — presumably drawing on unpublished portions of the police report — when she woke up to find him penetrating her, she asked him if he was “wearing anything.” He allegedly replied, “I am wearing you.”

Amanda Marcotte
Amanda Marcotte
Amanda Marcotte is a freelance journalist born and bred in Texas, but now living in the writer reserve of Brooklyn. She focuses on feminism, national politics, and pop culture, with the order shifting depending on her mood and the state of the nation.
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