So I got to see Gloria Steinem speak last night, and that was pretty cool. I'll be blogging about it and her documentary airing on HBO on Monday at XX Factor in a bit. One of the things covered in the documentary is something Sady Doyle talks about a lot with eloquence, which is how the roots of feminism—a complex, multi-tiered, intellectual endeavor—starts with a child's basic sense of right and wrong, the ability to simply look at injustice and say, "That's not fair."
With that in mind, I thought I'd kick off today's Panda Party in turntable.fm with what to my mind is a feminist anthem before its time, one that really came out before the women's movement became a phenomenon, but one that with simple common sense points out that the expectations on men and women in heterosexual relationships are simply not fair. And demands, without apology, that they be fair.
For those who haven't come to previous Panda Parties, they are the shit and I highly recommend it. Good people, good tunes, good times: an excellent way to kick off a weekend. A lot of people just spinning all sorts of fun stuff to listen to while you work.
After the showing, a group of ladies did the traditional "feminists get drinks and try to talk about stuff other than work though work invariably comes up" thing, and there was a lot of discussion about the importance of self-care and this excellent post at the Crunk Feminist Collective about the importance of seeing your own self as a person who deserves care and support and pleasure, as well as all the other people that you're fighting the good fight for. And that a lot of people fail to be as good as they could be because they neglect themselves, and that means they stress out and that's not good for your effectiveness in the world. You really should get a good night's sleep, etc. So we talked about the various ways we self-care and I said that music was definitely a big part of it for me. It's a medium through which people can get past a lot of the sniping and point-scoring of daily politics and chill and see each other as human beings. Through our cartoonish avatars. And that's pretty neat.