Update: Nona Willis Aronowitz came to the same conclusion as me. Great minds, you know the drill. She has even more statistics, some showing again that men's attachment to marriage is, if anything, stronger than women's. Which makes sense, since at least with straight marriage, men get more out of it on average.
Ruh-roh: statistics have come out showing that in these early years of same sex marriage being legal in some states, lesbians are hitting the altar far more than gay men. Like far, far more.
In Connecticut, 3,252 lesbian couples have been married since 2008, compared to 2,053 male couples. In Massachusetts, 8,404 female couples, 4,911 male. In New Hampshire, 1,113 pairs of women, 411 pairs of men. In Iowa, 1,376 lesbian marriages, 772 gay male marriages. In Vermont, 1,157 to 597.
These numbers are even more amazing when you realize that gay men way outnumber lesbians. Cue the sexist stereotypes about how women are monogamous and men are promiscuous! And that men want to avoid commitment while women are eager to put a ring on it.
There's just one problem with that stereotype: it isn't true and never has been. Susan Faludi debunked this one in "Backlash" and recent research indicates that single men are just as eager to get married as single women. If anything, men are more attached to the institution than women, as women file for divorce far more than men do. So this disparity can't really be boiled down to men v. women. Now, it could be that this is a matter of comparing apples to oranges—there's reasons to think that straight people and gay people of the same gender have different sets of motivations and circumstances on average that would change their willingness to get married—but I think there's a very simple explanation for this that hasn't been considered in any blogging I've seen on this. Maybe it's as much about who you're marrying as that you're marrying. Research consistently shows that married men—who until recently have all been in straight marriages—fare better psychologically, physically, and financially than single men. Women do better in some ways, but not nearly to the degree that men do. This might indicate that the institution itself has some magical effects on men, but I think a large part of it is that being married to a woman is good for you and more of a value-add to your life than being married to a man, stastically speaking. (Obviously, individuals vary.) Which makes sense. Women are socialized to be caregivers in a way men aren't, and so by marrying one, you get cared for more. I'm guessing lesbians aren't immune to these trends, and thus are quicker to get married.
So some songs about weddings and marriage for your Friday:
Yes, the general attitude towards marriage in my music collection is negative. Your point?
‘Clear and present racism’: MSNBC’s Morning Joe and Mika say Kellyanne Conway should have been ‘fired on the spot’ for slurring reporter
MSNBC's Joe Scarborough and Mika Brzezinski were astonished by Kellyanne Conway's response to a reporter asking about President Donald Trump's racist attacks on four first-year lawmakers.
The White House senior adviser asked Breakfast Media White House correspondent Andrew Feinberg, who is Jewish, about his ethnicity after he asked Conway what countries Trump was telling the Democratic congresswomen to return.
"I won't draw any parallels with any fascist countries, but what happened yesterday in a press gaggle has nothing to do with the United States of America," Scarborough said, "and in any other administration over the past 240 years, a person that did what Kellyanne Conway did yesterday would have been fired on the spot. By the time she left the press gaggle and went back into the White House, they would have already packed up her belongings and would have told her leave by the back door and never talk to us again."
Elon Musk shows off progress on brain-machine interface
Futurist entrepreneur Elon Musk late Tuesday revealed his secretive Neuralink startup is making progress on an interface linking brains with computers, and said they hope to begin testing on people next year.
Musk has long contended that a neural lace meshing minds with machines is vital if people are going to avoid being so outpaced by artificial intelligence that, under the best of circumstances, humans would be akin to "house cats."
Musk and members of the Neuralink team laid out progress they have made on their mission at an event held in San Francisco to recruit talent in software, robotics, neuroscience and more.
Two Texas Republicans in Congress were outraised as national Democratic offensive kicks off in Texas
Two potentially vulnerable Texas Republicans in Congress were outraised — and a few others saw seriously funded challengers — as the first major fundraising deadline passed in a cycle where national Democrats have built an expansive battlefield here, targeting six seats.
In the second quarter, Rep. Pete Olson, R-Sugar Land, fell short of Democratic challenger Sri Preston Kulkarni, $378,000 to $421,000. Rep. Kenny Marchant, R-Coppell, raised less than Democratic opponent Kim Olson, $225,000 to $279,000, before making a large loan to his campaign. And a few other GOP incumbents posted strong numbers — but so did Democrats running to unseat them, in a couple cases outpacing the officeholders after they entered the race mid-fundraising cycle.