Afghan cultural guide: If coalition soldier asks to see photo of your wife, don’t shoot him
KABUL — Don’t take offence if NATO soldiers exit the shower naked or ask to see a picture of your wife — it is normal and no reason to open fire, intone new cultural guidelines from the Afghan defence ministry.
Five thousand copies of a hastily written 28-page brochure have been distributed among 195,000 members of the Afghan army, most of them illiterate, in the latest attempt to clamp down on a phenomenon known as insider killings.
So far this year, Afghan security personnel have shot dead at least 45 NATO soldiers, the majority of them American, threatening to jeopardise Western plans to train Afghan forces to take over when they leave in 2014.
NATO attributes around 75 percent of the attacks to grudges, misunderstandings and cultural differences, so the Afghan ministry has taken matters into their own hands with avuncular advice for soldiers, even if they can’t read.
More than 10 years after NATO troops came to Afghanistan, Western habits — like winking, swearing and raising the middle finger — need to be spelt out to make sure Afghan troops in the deeply religious country do not feel offended.
“Even minor cultural differences can cause friction and misunderstanding,” says the “Brochure for Comprehending the Culture of the Coalition Forces” before listing taboos in Afghan culture that are seen as perfectly normal in the West.
“A coalition soldier might well walk in front of someone who is praying without realising it, or put their feet up on a table or desk so that they point at people in the room — do not take offence,” the pamphlet said.
Another is blowing your nose in public.
“This practice is very common among coalition member countries. If a coalition force member blows his nose in your presence do not consider it an insult.”
A further cross-cultural minefield is chatting about relatives and showing off pictures of wives and daughters.
“Coalition troops may ask about the women in your family. Do not take it as as an insult or humiliation, they want to be friendly. You should tell them that Afghans do not discuss their families and women with others,” the pamphlet said.
Contrary to Afghans, the booklet says NATO soldiers may wink, stick up the middle finger and exit the shower naked, but again advised Afghans not to take it personally.
“Remember all misunderstandings are unintentional,” it warned.
And advice for heated moments was simple.
“If you or your ISAF colleagues become angry, stay away for a while until the situation becomes normal. In that case, tell your commander to help you, and to mediate or reconcile between you and your ISAF partners,” the pamphlet reads.