New Orleans photographer Sabree Hill wanted to document the way crime affects her city, and she found Helping Mothers Heal -- a support group that meets at the Watson Teaching Ministries on St. Charles Avenue. What the women in the group have in common is that each of them has lost a child to gun violence, and they find different ways to go on with their own lives.
In the photo above, Margaret Washington sits in her daughter LaJoy’s room, while holding LaJoy’s McMain Secondary School graduation gown and medal for Physics.
Marguerite LaJoy Washington came to her adoptive mother Margaret Washington at three months old, and from the beginning the family treated her as its princess.
“She was my shadow,” said Washington, a former nursing instructor. “She grew up in my church, in my sorority, at Charity school of nursing, with my nursing alumni group. Wherever I was, she was there. It allowed her to be exposed to positive things, positive values and allowed her to get maturity much earlier then the average child.”
LaJoy, as she was affectionately known, started ballet at the age of 5, was devoted to Girl Scouts and later became a "Junior Saintsation" for the New Orleans Saints. She graduated from Eleanor McMain Secondary School in 2012, where she had the second-highest physics average and was known as “Bubbles” for her upbeat attitude. LaJoy was the reigning Queen of The New Orleans Chapter of Delta Sigma Theta Sorority.
Eager to start college and study pediatrics, LaJoy began taking summer classes at Dillard University right after graduating. In the fall, she moved into the dorms, but still called her mother daily to bring her different clothes and belongings from the house.
On Sunday, September 30, 2012, LaJoy had ordered Chinese food with her roommate. She had only taken a bite when she got a phone call and said she would be right back. LaJoy never returned to the dorm.
The next morning, when a police officer and chaplain arrived on Washington’s doorstep, she immediately feared that something had happened to her older son. When the authorities asked if she had a daughter, she stood in disbelief then started to sob. The natural order of things had been swept away.
After bolting from the meal of Chinese food at her dorm the night before, LaJoy had gone over to her new boyfriend’s house, and they were in the room together — watching TV and eating Taco Bell, Washington said — when they heard a knock on the window. The boyfriend went to the window, and gunfire broke out.
The boyfriend survived. LaJoy did not. She was 18.
The alleged murderer, Jeffrey Washington -- no relation to LaJoy -- was said to be a former friend to LaJoy's boyfriend who had turned enemy.
“Why my child? You should have gotten the one you were aiming for, and my child was lost in the process. I know that it’s not right, but it’s how I feel,” Margaret said. “My Christian values say we shouldn’t question death, but my human part says, ‘Why not?’”
Compounding the pain for a mother who had always been so close to her daughter, Margaret had never even heard of this new boyfriend.
“I had taught her to not be in people’s rooms like that and to come home at a good time,” Margaret said. “But she was experiencing a newfound freedom as a freshman and she was making decisions for herself, and I think she knew I wouldn’t be pleased with the company she knew.”
Margaret describes LaJoy’s funeral at First Grace United Methodist Church as a homecoming at the church home where she had ushered and taught Sunday School to young children. More than 900 people — half of them black, half white — attended her funeral, spilling out on to the streets.
Margaret’s sorority sister, Chanda Burks, had recently lost her son Jared and told Margaret about the mother’s group. She attended her first meeting in October 2012, less then two weeks after LaJoy’s death.
“I sat there crying pretty much through the whole thing. I just felt a calming spirit. These are people that understand where I am and what I am going through,” she said. “My ability to continue is just strengthened each time I go and I want to be there to help another mother because I know the process. It has just been so rewarding and comforting.”
“Too many cases are just allowed to fester and fester, year in and year out, and that is not good for the family,” Margaret said. “I don’t want to see anybody die, but a life has been indiscriminately taken, so they need to serve some time.”
Her only regret, she said, is that she and her daughter didn’t get to spend more time together, and she keeps up with the progress LaJoy's friends are making in school, trying to encourage them as she would have her own daughter.
“We are just losing a generation of young adults to violence and the community at large doesn’t seem to be doing much to rectify it,” Margaret said. “Our grassroots group of mothers who have experienced loss will bring a greater awareness, and community leaders will become more active in attacking the problem.
See all stories in this series:
by Jennifer Mascia
Bearing the Unbearable, a series by photographer Sabree Hill
– The longshoreman whose death makes no sense to the ones he left behind
– Two friends gunned down together on a New Orleans porch, their mothers are now united in grief
– The interrupted meal that proved fatal for one college freshman
– The shot that took two years to kill its victim
10 states where guns are most likely, and least likely, to kill people by Steven Rosenfeld
I was the NRA by Tom Boggioni
Accused Texas gunman avoided bans despite a history of domestic violence by Travis Gettys
by Katie Halper
Gun problem? What gun problem? by Tony Ortega
Gun violence since Newtown by Moyers & Company
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