As Rowan County Clerk Kim Davis continues to defy the law by refusing to issue marriage licences to gay couples, a gay rights group known as Planting Peace is challenging her with a billboard that demonstrates the reality of marriage.
“Dear Kim Davis,” the billboard reads, “The fact that you can’t sell your daughter for three goats and a cow means we’ve already redefined marriage.”
Nothing reinforces the truthfulness of the billboard more than the Bible itself. Exodus 22:16-17 illustrates how the traditional marriage Davis purports to believe in is based on a virgin-obsessed financial transaction:
“If a man seduces a virgin who is not engaged, and lies with her, he must pay a dowry for her to be his wife. If her father absolutely refuses to give her to him, he shall pay money equal to the dowry for virgins.”
It’s unclear if anyone was unfortunate enough to pay a dowry for any one of Kim Davis’ four marriages to three different men, but it’s safe to say that her way of doing things was less than traditional. Considering that she lives in the largest glass house imaginable, it’s interesting to see her continuing to throw stones at the gay community.
There have been so many exceptions made to accommodate the needs of people who realize how unrealistic traditional marriage is, including divorce and a lot less emphasis on whether or not a woman’s hymen is in tact. Yet people like Davis, who have taken advantage of every one of those exceptions, can’t feel an ounce of empathy for the gay community.
Davis supposedly found her religious identity in 2011, and she’s using her so-called awakening to warrant her own discriminatory behavior toward the gay community. Doubling down on her defiant behavior doesn’t change the fact that she’s a hypocrite based on her own religious teachings. The same people who are applauding her discrimination now are the same people who would look down on her for her sinful past.
If marriage is so sacred to Davis, she should have made her first marriage work regardless of how miserable she was, right? Apparently believes that exceptions to traditional marriage are only reserved for her.
Marriage is and will always be a financial transaction at its very core. Sure, people like me love to romanticize it and dream about making the ultimate commitment with the person they love. But on paper, it’s all about tax breaks, shared health insurance, and a legal document that’ll allow you to see your loved in case they end up in a hospital.