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‘He never desired me’: Woman who married gay Mormon admits heartbreak after announcing divorce

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A gay Mormon man who married a woman announced the couple was divorcing after realizing the importance of his sexual orientation.

Josh Weed made national news in 2012 after he came out as a gay man in a straight marriage, but he and his wife Lolly publicly announced their divorce, reported Buzzfeed News.

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The Seattle-based couple married 10 years ago, and Weed insisted he and his wife had a happy marriage and an “extremely healthy and robust sex life” despite his same-sex attraction.

Weed announced the split Thursday in a lengthy blog post, saying he “finally saw how important it was to love myself, to truly love myself as a gay man.”

“It hurt us both very deeply, and we spent many long nights holding one another and weeping as we thought of the decades to come for us, neither of us experiencing real romantic love,” Weed wrote.

Lolly wrote about the pain she felt knowing that her husband was never sexually attracted to her.

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“We were best friends, but he never desired me, he never adored me, he never longed for me,” she wrote. “People who read our previous post might be confused because we mention having a robust sex life. That was true. We put forth a lot of effort and were “mechanically” good at sex—and it did help us to feel intimate, and for a time that closeness did help us to feel content in our sex life — but I don’t remember him ever looking at me with passion in his eyes.”

The couple apologized for the public announcement of their relationship, which drew criticism from LGBT rights activists and messages from people who had been hurt as a result.

“One person wrote — and I’ll never get the horror of this out of my head for the rest of my life — saying that he went to see his family for Thanksgiving during his second year of college, where he was an out gay man who openly had a boyfriend,” Josh Weed wrote. “When he got home, his father pulled up our story on the computer and then physically assaulted him, beating him as he had often done during his childhood, saying “if this guy could avoid being a faggot, so could you!”

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The couple plans to buy a homestead property large enough that they can keep their family, which includes three daughters, together even after they each added a partner in the future.

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Texas governor busted sending racist call-to-arms a day before El Paso attack: ‘take matters into our own hands’

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On Thursday, Gov. Greg Abbott (R-TX) tweeted out a message of unity and promised to work to reduce violence in his state, in the wake of the shooting in El Paso that left 22 dead and dozens more injured:

Today we had hearings responding to the tragic shooting in El Paso.

We focused on community healing, combating domestic terrorism, reducing hateful ideologies, & keeping guns out of hands of deranged killers while respecting 2nd Amendment rights.

We’ll keep TX safe.#txlege pic.twitter.com/ymct4aiSgK

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Facebook bans far-right website from pro-Trump advertising after they try to skirt transparency rules

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It is currently unclear why they are calling for his resignation.

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