Mistress of Kristi Noem's husband reveals how ICE shootings wrecked his home life
U.S. Homeland Security Secretary Kristi Noem gestures during a press conference to discuss ongoing U.S. Immigration and Customs Enforcement (ICE) operations, as part of U.S. President Donald Trump's immigration policy, at One World Trade Center in New York City, U.S., January 8, 2026. REUTERS/David 'Dee' Delgado

The husband of former Homeland Security Secretary Kristi Noem reportedly admitted things got "really bad at home" after Immigration and Customs Enforcement (ICE) agents killed Renee Good and Alex Pretti in Minnesota.

Texts and phone call recordings obtained by The Daily Mail detailed sex worker Shy Sotomayor's years-long relationship with Bryon Noem, who was said to enjoy cross-dressing and dreamed of becoming a woman named Chrystal.

Sotomayor said she confronted the Homeland Security secretary's husband after discovering his true identity late last year.

"Besides the fact of who your wife is, no one is prettier than me. No one is as powerful," the woman told him. "So much better than your wife, aren't I?"

"You're so much better," he replied.

Although Byron Noem talked about leaving his wife for Sotomayor, that changed after Good and Pretti were shot to death by immigration officers.

"Did you think that I wouldn't find out who you were?" she asked during a January 10 conversation.

"I knew you knew," Byron Noem admitted.

Sotomayor revealed that the secretary's husband became distraught and cut off contact following the shooting of Good.

"Really bad at home. Really bad. I've got to go and figure me out. It's bad. Sorry and thank you," he explained. "I've got to stop everything and focus on me. Thank you. I'll be deleting all my stuff."

"Is it because of everything going on right now with ICE?" Sotomayor asked.

"And life," Byron Noem said.

"Yeah I'm sure it's stressful," Sotomayor wrote back.

Only two weeks later, Byron Noem contacted her again.

"I do like my wife and I know you don't," he texted.

"To be honest. She's not [very] likable," Sotomayor said. "There's no female compared to me. Especially your wife."

"True!!!" he exclaimed.

"Like being honest, idk how you can be with her," Sotomayor said before pressing him about Kristi Noem shooting the family's puppy.

"So stupid people talk about that. So stupid," Byron Noem complained. "Let's talk about something else... People are clueless."

President Donald Trump fired Kristi Noem earlier this year after rumors that she had an affair with adviser Corey Lewandowski.